A Way to Successful Parenting By Khan Paki Gee

If we are going to discuss about parenting then we can say many important things about it because it can be one of the most important part or phase of man's life and we have to discuss it in detail for getting the right idea of it.

Actually, parenting is all about raising a child with great care and much affection. It will also come in the parenting to give the sense of right or wrong to their children. To bring up a child can be one of the uphill tasks but if you are taking rational decision for raising your child, there will not be any acute problem in it.

It will also come in the same parenting to make your child socially responsible and productive for all stages of life. There should be some attention on the physical nourishment and character building of the child. Through parenting, the child have to be stand on its own bottom for making his or her future better and bringing credit to the name of his or her family, society or the country.

In parenting, a child gets the education that is completely diverse and change as compare to the education of school. A parent strives to develop their child with good and extra ordinary social qualities whereas in school a child learns through some of scientific methods and helps him or her in improving intellectual development. However, intellectual level of every person is different from others and people come with diverse mental faculties but as a parent, if you are teaching your child a lesson then you are fulfilling your responsibility.

Moreover, it also comes into the parental responsibility to make sure the development of their child's personality.

As a parent, you have to give your children a sense of complete security because without giving his or her physical security, you are marring the personality of your children and this action can bring some negative reaction.

Parenting style is also another obvious and vital key factor in raising a child through which you can make or mar the personality of your children. Your style will surely take effect on the behavior of your child and you can see these all effects from your very eyes.

You have to make your child strong enough to face the world and vicissitudes of fortunes. Your child should have self-confidence in his or her personality and it comes only then, if you are giving them a complete environment and drawing a strong circle of relationship.

You can get the best and most suitable outcomes if you are catching even a slight glimpse of parenting and influential methods of it. In all, for getting the most from your life, you have to make your child disciplined and full of confidence. You can take a sigh of relieve, if you have observed this responsibility successfully.

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6 Words To NEVER Say To Your Child - What These Words Really Mean By Shirley Slick

If I had a dollar for every time I heard these words -- "I wasn't good in math either" -- I could have retired long ago. Over the course of thirty-three years of teaching and tutoring there were many parent-teacher conferences, meetings with parents after report cards were distributed, and many tutor interviews. And one thing that seemed to be consistent was this need on the part of the parents to tell me that they, too, had struggled with math. But the statement "I wasn't good in math either" always made me cringe. I don't think that parents really understand what they are saying to their child with these words.

On the elementary level, most of a school's parents attend Open House and Parent-Teacher Conferences because they are excited and deeply involved in their child's learning. That is wonderful. I wish that was equally true on the high school level. Admittedly, attendance at Open House at the beginning of the school year is high and parents are enthusiastic. But it generally doesn't take too long for that enthusiasm to wane. On the high school level, the majority of the parents wanting to speak to their child's math teacher during Parent-Teacher Conferences have children who are struggling in their math class. After every grading period ends and report cards come out, the phone calls and emails begin from worried parents. Likewise, the parents who seek out private math tutors are doing so because their child needs additional math help.

Being worried about lack of understanding and low grades and then contacting the teacher is absolutely the correct first response. It is imperative that corrective measures be taken as soon as possible. Unfortunately, in virtually every conference those 6 terrible words get spoken--in front of their child--without the parents ever understanding just how counterproductive this statement is to their child's improvement. So why do parents say it?

I truly believe that every parent wants what is best for their child. They are trying to be supportive and helpful. They are trying to alleviate depression or low self-esteem in their child. They wouldn't be meeting with the teacher or seeking extra help if this were not the case. I believe that they are trying to reassure their child that everything will be OK. They are trying to take on the responsibility for the low grade. They are trying to say "You aren't dumb. I'm the one who is dumb."

But the statement "I wasn't good in math either" which is usually followed by "He gets it from me" and/or "He comes by it naturally" actually has many negative implications. When the parent says "I wasn't good at math either," the child hears "My child is bad at math" and that often gets magnified in his mind to "My child is dumb at math because we were." The child also gets the idea that there is no hope since mom and dad did poorly.

The true implication, and by far the worst, of these 6 words is the unstated but implied permission to fail. Every time a parent says "I wasn't good in math either, the child feels no need to try to improve because mom/dad didn't improve. Your child hears "When you fail we will understand because we weren't good at math either." I don't believe for one second that any parent intends to give their child permission to fail; but teens are especially good at putting meaning into our words that we never intend.

How do we fix this? First, be honest with your child if there was a specific reason why you had difficulty with math. My mother was a "preacher's kid" and as such changed schools frequently. in one of those moves, she was forced to take Geometry without having had Algebra. She told me often about her struggles with math, but the reason was obvious and it wasn't because she was dumb. Sometimes difficulties are due to illness. Many times parents who had difficulty with math didn't do the things that might have made a difference, like go in for extra help or get a tutor. Be honest with your child.

If I had my way, that sentence would be stricken from our language. But in the meantime, always show your child that you KNOW he/she is smart enough to learn anything with the right help. Children who are smart enough to learn to walk and talk and read are smart enough to learn anything. Remind them of that fact. They don't remember how difficult those tasks were or how persistent they were. Become your child's partner in learning and success. Remove failure as an option. If those 6 words should happen to fall out of your mouth, bite your tongue, and then quickly follow with "but I know you are smarter than I was and there is help available that I didn't have." And then hire a tutor.

Shirley Slick, "The Slick Tips Lady," is a retired high school math teacher and a private tutor. With degrees in Mathematics and Psychology as well as additional training in brain-based learning and teaching, Shirley is uniquely qualified to pursue her passions of: (1) helping parents to help their children with mathematics -- specifically Algebra, (2) helping improve Algebra instruction in our schools to eliminate the horrendous Algebra failure rate, and (3) informing the general public about problematic issues related to the field of education. To compete in this global economy, everyone needs to care about the education of our children, and everyone needs to get involved. For more detailed information, for teaching tips for parents and teachers, and for your free copy of "10 Slick Tips for Improving Your Child's Study Habits," visit her website athttp://myslicktips.com/ Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Shirley_Slick

Helping Baby Sleep - 3 Top Tips to Get a Peaceful Night Sleep for All By Nik Edser

Just about every parent throughout history has at sometime had issues trying to get their little ones to sleep through the night.

It can be frustrating when you don't know why your baby won't settle. This can cause massive stress for parents and the flow-on effect can cause problems in the relationship between parents, poor performance in the workplace due to extreme tiredness etc.

Tip 1) Routine

Set a bed-time routine and stick to it. We find a bath at the same time every night, followed by a feed then straight to bed has worked well. It took a little time for our daughter to get used to the routine, but now she knows the routine.

Tip 2) Put your baby to bed still awake

If you only put your baby to bed when they have fallen asleep, they will not learn that they need to sleep when in their own bed. By ensuring they are still awake when you put them down, they will learn (with the routine established) this is sleep time.

Tip 3) Persistence

Never give up. Stick to the routine. Your baby might resist, but you need to be strong and be in charge of the routine. Consistency and persistence will win.

Bonus Tip

We found that these things helped greatly, but when actually putting our daughter down, she would still cry for a long time. This was very painful for us to hear.

We discovered a fantastic science based way to get her to sleep quickly once we put her down, without the use of drugs or anything harmful to her.

Scientific based mp3 files that are designed to induce sleep naturally can work wonders.

It was by using these amazing brain wave mp3 files that we were able to quickly and naturally induce a peaceful sleep. Prior to this, we tried every kind of lighting, every kind of music known to man all to no effect. Whilst we were skeptical at first, we were absolutely amazed when this actually worked. Every night now the whole family enjoys 8 or more hours of uninterrupted sleep! Don't put up with sleepless nights any more! Visit our free information page here at Helping Baby Sleep, where you can learn more about the amazing downloadable sounds that will have your baby sleeping the whole night through. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Nik_Edser

Motivating Children To Learn To Read - The Power Of Daydreams By Phil Rowlands

An Unappreciated Ability.

It's an all too familiar picture, the teacher walks into the room and begins to talk. The child gazes wistfully out of the window drifting far away on an imaginative flight of fancy. Observing the inattentive student the teacher fires a question in her direction. Unable to answer the student is reduced to an embarrassed shameful silence. Hardly the most productive emotional state for learning.

This is the negative image of daydreaming that many of us hold - a hindrance to the learning process. Billy Bunter, the most famous fictitious public schoolboy of all time (after Tom Brown), regularly attempted to extricate himself from the exact same situation with the response "1066 Sir". The law of averages would dictate he was bound to get it right eventually.

What we are doing is effectively denigrating the brain's most powerful ability - the imagination.

The Power Of The Big Picture

Great leaders have always been visionaries able to inspire others with the Big Picture.

President J F Kennedy had no idea of the technical challenges involved in getting a man to the moon but he motivated a nation to meet that challenge and succeed.

Dr Martin Luthor King went to the mountain top and others followed.

Winston Churchill inspired Britain to stand firm before the might of Nazi Germany as Europe threatened to slip into darkness.

They painted an irresistible picture in the minds of men through the power of the spoken word. Imagination embraced the dream and the dream became reality.

Teach Children To Dream Big Dreams

Einstein said "Imagination is more important than knowledge." 
Captivate the heart and mind through the power of the imagination and knowledge will follow. If we are inspired to accomplish something, if the dream is big enough we will acquire the skills and knowledge we need to create the reality we desire.

"The soul," said Aristotle, "cannot think without a picture."
The dream is an intangible picture by which we create a tangible future.
Nothing ever happens without a dream.
A man or woman with a clear dream can achieve anything. If your dream is big enough nothing else matters. Walt Disney lived by that truth and children everywhere have enjoyed the fruit of his vision.

That is why the learning process should always begin with an appeal to the imagination. Children should always be given the Big Picture not asked to follow blindly step by step a well-worn path that has been trod many times before.

Reading: The Big Picture

How can we help motivate children to read?
Inspire them!

Parents have a crucial role to play.
Does your child ever see you 'lost' in a book? Do you spend time reading to them so that it becomes associated with a pleasurable, intimate experience? How do you value reading?

The ability to read fluently is probably one of the greatest gifts we can give our children. Reading enables us to see with the eyes of our imagination beyond the mundane and the ordinary where there are no limitations.
Edison declared, "I never think in words only pictures."

Like Lucy we can stare into the shadowy depths of the wardrobe and glimpse strange and magical worlds.

We can leap into the breaking surf and stand alongside Achilles as he gazes up at the shimmering walls of Troy and dreams of immortal glory.

We can shudder in dark underground caverns as we huddle alongside Bilbo Baggins and listen in terror for the flapping of webbed feet on the cold hard floor.

To deny children entrance to these worlds is nothing short of a crime.
Phonics? Humbug!

A plea to parents! Leave the technicalities to teachers.
It's a sad fact that education will always be a political football.
As I write synthetic phonics is gaining the ascendancy in the U.K.
Don't even ask! As parents you don't really need to know. Your role is to encourage and inspire.

Many children will become fluent readers almost naturally regardless of how they are taught. Sadly, there will be others for whom it becomes a struggle or, worse, a source of humiliation. These are the children who need to be motivated not constantly confronted with their own perceived inadequacy compared to everyone else. UK. and U.S. prisons are full of young people who never learnt to read properly and consequently branded themselves as failures or inadequate.

Children need to hear themselves succeed. They need to be driven by success. There is a method ideally suited to this. It is based on motivating children to read and has been used successfully by parents and by peer mentors. It is not based on any technical knowledge. It does not focus in on failure. It is based on improving a child's reading flow and reflects the results from research into brain-based learning.
How Audio-Books Can Develop Your Imagination

TV destroys the imagination. Audio nurtures it.
I have seen many superb Sci Fi movies where technology has made the impossible appear real but nothing bears comparison to the childhood experience of listening to Dan Dare on the radio every Sunday evening. That was truly creepy. As magnificent as Lord Of The Rings may be on-screen it could not compare with what was conjured by my imagination as I read the printed word.

Children need to listen to great stories read by gifted storytellers. They need to be given the big picture of what reading is truly about. This is where audio-books can have a dramatic influence. Read the comments below that reflect one reader's experience of listening to an audio recording of The Alamo by the Colonial Radio Theatre. It is an experience he will obviously never forget.

Audio-books model good reading, set the imagination free and touch the emotions.

Before retirement Phil Rowlands was a primary school headteacher in the UK for 27 years. He has a deep interest in brain-based-research particularly with regard to how it impacts on children's learning and is the author of several learning programs including the multi-sensory early years math program, "Ensure Your Child Succeeds At Math". If you are interested in learning more about the method to help motivate children to read fluently referred to in the article then visithttp://www.HelpYourChildSucceed.com/Dreams.htm where it can be downloaded for free. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Phil_Rowlands

Comparing Divorce to Legal Separation By Ricardo Tiu Mendes

Contrasting divorce, a legal separation does not actually terminate marriage. During this, a court order has been issued to signify every right and responsibility of a spouse during separation. You are still married though you two live separately. You can also address issues regarding division of assets and debts, child custody and child support, visitation schedules and spousal support.

A legal separation agreement is also addressed. This can protect your interests while the agreement is in effect, up until the decision is made for filing divorce. The separation agreement also sets preference to the upcoming divorce. If you two divorce right after your separation, and your case has brought up to the court, there will be an assumption from the judge that since you two agreed with the legal separation agreement, the agreement should carry over to the divorce settlement agreement. Therefore, it is important that you come to a separation agreement in a long term basis.

Although a legal separation and divorce do share common aspects and factors, obtaining a legal separation is advantageous over filing a divorce right away. It is not because you do not have to think of dividing assets and putting your children into custody, but to think of the best ways to resolve the marital differences. These are the following advantages:
• It allows couples to think, with given time and setting aside the conflict of the marriage to decide if divorce is what they truly want or to resolve the issue by reconciliation.
• It allows withholding of medical benefits and certain other benefits (like financial assistance, undivided property and assets, and delayed child custody issues) that divorce would likely to close stages with.
• If your religious beliefs have to do with your conflict to the idea of divorce, then you are probably able to live separate from each other, yet you keep hold of your marital status for the sake of your religion.
• If you are a spouse who serves the military, you have the option to remain the "married" status for 10 years so that you can still receive benefits set up by the Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protection Act.
• Remaining married for 10 years or more also means being able to take advantage of certain social security benefits for a spouse.
• If the decision to divorce is made, the legal separation agreement automatically converted into a divorce settlement agreement without any additional charges.

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