Monday, September 6, 2010

Positive Child Discipline - The Key Word Is Positive! By Paul R Donahue

Positive child discipline is a term that is really popular these days. It's popular for two important reasons. We'll discuss them, and the effects of each one on our children!
The first reason this is a popular topic is because many, many parents are having issues with their children. Regardless of the reasons for this, parents are searching for help. Many times this search leads them to the internet. Usually by the time they get to this point, they are, for the most part, coming to grips with the fact that the forms of child discipline that they usually use, just aren't working.
From this admission has come a search for something else that might work. The term positive child discipline satisfies the imagination because it refers to the problem of child discipline. At the same time, it has the word positive included in it which gives people the sense that it is going to solve the problem. So, on the surface at least, there are pretty good reasons to feel good about this term, which then, in turn, enables many folks to want to know more about it!
Though some of this is speculation, and some of it is fact, it is definitely true that more and more people are searching for some answers to their parenting woes. This leads us to the second reason that this term is so popular.
It is so popular because there are more and more research findings that show that positive reinforcement works, and yelling, screaming, intimidation, and punishments don't work. There is even research that has found that all the negative style types of parenting cause more than just emotional harm. Many believe now, that these negative forms of child discipline cause increased fear and stress in children. The effects of this are numerous, including:
  1. Increased cortisol to the brain
  2. Dis-orientation
  3. Teenage delinquency
  4. Sociopathic behaviors and tendencies
The dis-orientation causes most or all of the misbehavior that we get mad at, and yell at our children for. Which came first, the chicken or the egg? Which came first, our children's misbehavior, or our causing fear in them?
Whether you totally subscribe to this theory concerning cortisol or not, it does bring up some very compelling ideas. Doesn't it seem that our children are better off with positive child discipline, as opposed to all the numerous types of negative style parenting. Not to mention, there are sometimes other reasons children act up, including when they don't understand something, or when their basic needs aren't being met.
When we get so caught up in coming down on them, and yelling at them, and often criticizing them, we may lose sight of the fact that they are live, young human beings, who are still growing and maturing.
If you would like access to a near endless array of parenting resources, go to positive child discipline. There you can get the help you need, including free reports on how to get your child to listen, and how to stop misbehavior, defiance, and outbursts. There is also a special report on what foods will help as well. For more information about cortisol, and it's effects, go to positive child discipline!

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